Brenda's Brainstorm & Trevor, a T Man Production 2009 - 2022

Hello my fellow readers, it's Trevor aka T Man with another tale for October as promised. This one will be a difficult one to navigate and for Brenda to share, with my paws at the keyboard. BOL We are going to be exploring the subject of loss.  There are many sides of the spectrum, loss of a loved one, your health, job, etc. the list could go on and on.  Brenda knows all too well about losses she has sustained in her immediate family. Family dynamics can be tricky and I'm sure you have even dealt with situations where you are estranged from family members. Brenda always wants this blog to be real and transparent as possible. She has dealt with the estrangement of a sibling for well over a decade. It was their choice to part ways and Brenda no longer can shed tears for something she has no idea what caused this in the first place.  Brenda has even been contacted about how this sibling is doing. She has no idea. Brenda attempted to reach out to them during her mother's illn...

Hello my fellow readers! Trevor aka T Man right out the gate with our October tale. A gate to me is a place where I try to escape. BOL Had to get that in there, but seriously, we are going to explore the aspects of competition. I'm not referring to sports here, but how others make those feel who deal with serious chronic conditions, not always visible. Your comments without knowing the whole story or even giving those who live with these challenges a chance to explain can be hurtful and yes, even harmful. Let me cite for you an example. Brenda had this friend once and sadly, they are no longer an intricate part of her life. Every time she would be with this person and Brenda would try to even explain the slightest thing that was going on with her rheumatoid arthritis (RA) it would be the same song, "You should see our friend's hands, they are so crippled up and she has it much worse." I'm going to stop you right there, how do you doggone know this? Yes, I'm us...